Sometimes when I tell people of my achievements, especially when I managed to improve my life, I'll be getting praises along with "I'm so proud of you!" and to be honest I did the same when I hear inspirational stories. Then it hit me.
To begin with, why am I getting validation from you? Who are you? Who are you to me? Is getting validation from you is important? Do I really need to get validation from you?
This is a rather amusing question that I sometimes wonder.
And then it hit me back; why must I validate people? Who am I to them? Am I their teacher? I am their idol? On paper I am not, but to their eyes maybe - but it left me wonder, why must I feel so to begin with? A bit narcissistic don't you think?
Now, now maybe I'm being a bit negative here. After all majority of people who use this phrase meant well, it's their way to show encouragements so it must be good right?
I think I only begin to wonder when I'm getting this kind of praises by people, how should I praise it? People I'm not really fond of. Some of them I even aware of their insincerity personality. My reaction to this (in my head btw), "I'm not asking any validation from you"
Again it's unfair for me to question this because these are isolated incidents, but it make me question many things.
What do you think?
Honestly I think I just overthinking.
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